not fail! bon honeymoon homecoming for the first time

Until now unless there is a habit of homecoming, unless most the time when the overland route and the air route have been packed, and it returns to the time when also price is high “why into one year, it is not good?”Don’t you think? how perhaps, the new wife who is thought it is.
The article regarding homecoming even in New Year’s Day (new New Year’s Day homecoming.Insecure doubt all cancellation! ) You wrote, but those where most it is different from the homecoming of the end of year beginning of the year are to be period of the “tray”.

Until you get married, being parents’ home living, in God shelf family Buddhist altar the edge which does not have the edge visiting a grave directing to the new wife who becomes far, the case where it goes home for the first time with the tray, we deliver basic knowledge.

Elementary knowledge of tray

– Tray?
Thing of the period when Kuyo it does spirit of the deceased and the ancestor is called the tray.As for long title of the tray you call the “bon festival meeting” (the u and others bo it is to obtain,), it is thought, that spirit of the ancestor from netherworld one time, returns in 1 years, it is the event where belief and Buddhism of the Japanese ancient times are related and is possible.

– Period of tray
Period of the tray is different depending upon area, Tokyo and with that suburb, July 13th ~16 day, in the district 1 months is slow, it is August 13th ~16 day.

– Concretely what is done?
by region of destination and home totsugi, obon is like the flow ofbut i think, as does the following custom. some people may not experience the first time, let’s understand the sequence of events is as simple as not panic.

13day: bon bon pick-enters
first, 13on the morning of every day to cleanse the buddhist-buddhist altar, to enter the tray are shoryodana (shoryodana) make a. enshrine the memorial tablet, a thing of the shelf to the offerings, do not place flowers and offerings, decorate the cow horse, made with eggplant made with cucumber. this is, soon want to come on horseback to the spirits of our ancestors, rice have been wish that i want you to come home riding on the cow so slowly reluctance. on the space of the housing, the shelf may also decorate the altar without making.
13evening of the day, outside the front door backfire let’s welcome our ancestors burned.

14sun-15day
stopped by the regional, invited to chanting monks of the temple to house the, you may get memorial. during obon, the altar offerings and meals will be new water every day. to your mother-in-law’s should i change the water at the altar? please voice over, etc..
if there is a grave is also close to, allows you to your grave with all the relatives. the gassho toward the front edge deep in the order with the deceased. would normally be, please aligned with the hands together like husband.

16day: feed tray
the ancestors departures you will receive by.

on the next page, make sure that you want to return home hatsubon will discuss!

if hatsubon, all means let’s homecoming!

of the deceased49buddhist memorial service the day after, a tray for the first time welcome hatsubon (hatsubon) or arabon (arabon-arabon) this is called. or ask the monks chanting in, collect all the relatives, the memorial service particularly generous.
i gather a lot of relatives, so as not to disgrace behind schedule, let the day of arrival have to be able to afford.
and notes about the clothes, there are no flowers or other sum to be prepared for the obon, let’s ensure the destination of your parents return home.

miyuki nakayama kankonsosai oyster article will be very helpful guide. how to hit the hatsubon is, please read all means.
if you are invited or welcome-side arabon

face-to-face and after relatives, i want to be careful is?

now, you gather all the relatives when it comes to bon, relatives who have not met since the weddingthey may be puzzled by some.

1, let’s face and name to check.
before homecoming is, while looking at the photos of wedding and sir, to match the names and faces of relatives, it is safe, etc. once you have a shared profession and kinkyo.

2, how to call the family and relatives?

the parents of husband, us our father-in-law, us our mother-in-law, if it is referred to as, ichiro also older relatives like his uncle, aunt as hanako like there is no excuse and call with a.
also, like your brother and his husband husband, married to his brother’s, the bride is, it in the older mr. referred to in the attached, if the younger, in some cases chan kun whichever is also a good idea and.
but, because it does not have a rule in particular was decided, respecting the color of their house, excuse me, rather than as a married, let’s call to adopt a more formal ru tokekome not be in the range also!

3, hospitality gift is?

and offerings to the altar, i think that’s a good shelf life, such as sweets divided by the number of some. in the destination enters the hand is hard to return home, it has been said here a staple of our products and. the more your sweets elderly, you may also come in handy in the summer also your noodle.

how was? some people did not have a tray until now familiar, look familiar to japanese traditional event is the opportunity of marriage or how would? i went to bon odori or neighborhood association husband had participated from an early age, might be a good time to once again be a glimpse of his roots.
it should be noted, how do you spend at home later in the homecoming, please see below! wife, do not forget the apron.
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