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When sound argument you said, it was disliked! It probably is why not to understand!?

When it is opinion, instead of you do not understand, being disliked, there is no experience that it was hurt? Without calling in the opposite direction, that you would like to say, when the thinking which is harsh is done n/a We teach the technique of the magic which both trouble cancels at a stroke! Before that, first, please view the example below.

A you:
Section chief! Is concerning the treatment of the dispatch employee whom some days ago you spoke, but you could think?
Section chief:
Well, so the shelf.The u ~ it is….Certainly, you would like to saying it is recognized, but it isBecause he has persevered in his appearance, n/a

A you:
Obtaining, such.It has been troubled with him truly, it is.Although it is the dispatch employee who is not final decision right, it was not and made a contract yesterday or many consultations selfishly it is! Furthermore, having made a contract with the outrageous amount, the contract seeing, it became Sales Div. everyone deep blue, because it is!
Section chief:
So well, so simply headless or.It is certain for he to be competent, die.Even business result, probably is top class?

A you:
With consequence of that business operations, I for the rear end wiping become overtime work, it is.i think they would not know from manager back on time every day! like it, it is not convincing!
manager:
(as stuffy) Ayou, treatment of copper or roughly dispatch, to you is the decision of the personnel i do not. if you get angry and do not have permission to dispatch overachiever sales in the approval, of you without the right personnel as, this opinion ultra vires action would also.

Ayou:
but ~tsu…….
manager:
you really just i’m always pushing their own opinions about. during this time also, has decided on a policy, i was yelling and it seems funny funny.

Ayou:
even if, not so much wanted to complain, is not advised him that i am allowed to be on good intentions, i took the backing neatly. the upper part, it has launched a misguided policy too, even i know will be folded manager?
manager:
i~it is, well, you give out an opinion but i certainly, it might be better to say a little more to devise a?

Ayou:
what are you talking about? i’m just saying that the right thing and correct, wrong thing is i should not say? the section chief is so i’ll always. turn a deaf ear to the opinions of my decent.
manager:
no, well, what i mean……forget it.

Ayou:
manager~! !

this conversation, do not you ever seen? did you mean, Aare you not at you? he have my own opinion is, i only say that the right thing right, why not get accepted, seems to be the type of person who would be hated if i see you idling become desperate.

Ayou may own? look back on the conversation of their own tips on the next page!

YOUmessage it may be that i unconsciously blame

could not accepted, that isAyou can say they’ve let the state create a wall to other’s feelings. alone can not explain what was happening around go unheard, if i call a strong defense reaction, partner is angry or, would also be interest if i hated. why is the other became defense want to hear the story of why you? it is because i have to attack the opponent unconscious.

and to simplify the message of how to tell, 2can be divided into type.

1. you become the subject is YOUmessage
are you i are you must
2. i become the subject is Imessage
i i think i feel

Aif you look at the lines of, good to say about almost allYOUmessage has been accounted for.

as for the treatment of temporary employees, manager (you) i hope you are thinking?
manager (you) would know because?
manager (you) there is no holding me squarely in my opinion

YOUcharacteristic of the message, you the subject is that the. in doing so, partner or asserts that a unilateral, is often received as to determine. Ano offense to you even without, if you look to the other party, will be received to have been hurled from a very short distance in the best words. it is an attack of words exactly.

Ayour opinion, certainly correct. it is also chief you give out an opinion i certainly are recognized as. but, opponent in the middle of a conversation it might be better to say a little more to devise a we screamed and small. in this, also what is your opinion no matter how great, i heard is it will get harder.

Irewrite the message. rewrite the relationship with partner.

so, the lines of earlierIlet’s rewrite the message or. the subject you from i replaced by, word to describe your feelings (fun, disappointed, sad, feel) go to the smooth and add the.

(YOUmessage) as for the treatment of temporary employees, manager (YOU) i hope you are thinking?

( I message) as for the treatment of temporary employees, if you can let the thought of mr. (I=i) i’m glad

(YOUmessage) manager (YOU) would know because?

( I message) i (I) i feel and not have the same opinion is also chief

(YOUmessage) manager (YOU) there is no holding me squarely in my opinion

( I message) i (I) is, it seems that the opinions of my coverage kudasara manager

how will? it has changed a great deal impression of words. others who, what is not easy to receive the message became much.

Ithe greatest merit of the message, feelings akumademo (emotion) is that you can clearly and opinions clearly and. other party was conveyed in this way, this akumademoAroh ‘s your opinion, is not imposed on their and it can be judged. then, easier to accept their opinions objectively, this means that the possibility of talking about it you get an acceptance is higher.

in exactly the same content, such as, only change is subject, do not you think feeling comes also changed a great deal of words arise ya impression?

type of thing you want to say how do i can not say? its tip on the next page!

Imessage is the ultimate weapon can also be used to want to say you can not say that

hisAit is not a type like you have strong self-assertion, instead, can not say half of the shy type you want to say. your suggestion. my one has just put up with always, i can not say that i want to say is that, mood of the other party does not get worse if i may say do not you think, and? only that you’re actually, Ii’d like to use the message.

as i mentioned earlier, Iopponent was conveyed in a message, this akumademoAroh ‘s your opinion, is not imposed on their and it can be judged from, in dutch or, anger is that it is less. you are safe to tell their own opinions so frankly! even since it is a shot in the arm of office to become a word of the rut you have. please, try by all means! !

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